Spring

1) April is National Poetry Month. I get an innovative poem e-mailed to me every day by the Academy of American Poets. I also rip poems out of the Poem-in-a-Pocket book that my colleagues and students gave to me in Boston. I bestow said poems upon people who are nice to me. And sometimes people who are rude to me. But the rude ones get those annoying, overly-esoteric poems that allude to obscure artists by way of impossibly thick metaphor and advanced vocabulary.

I celebrate you, Rude People of Madison!

2) My little brother is having a great time in Korea.

3) I have a vague idea of what I want to write my thesis on. Hopefully, it will involve drag queens.

4) I will study Thai at SEASSI (Southeast Asian Studies Summer Institute) here in Madison this summer. Come. Join me for a beer on Lake Mendota and some conversation in Thaiglish. You see, after 4.5 hours of language training every morning, I'm sure my English will rapidly depreciate in value as it pertains to witty banter and general clarity.

4) Many friends are getting married. All of these people are also pursuing the personal and professional interests that contribute to their loveliness. I couldn't be happier for them.

5) I bought "conference pants" last month. Because I went to a conference. While I didn't present and I was far to shy for "networking," hopefully the pants made an impression.

Douse yourself in eyeliner! Now, for a Gulf Wedding.

It is a result of both the great fear of Shannon Heit and her preoccupation with my life as well as my current state of exhaustion that I send forth this blog. It's been around for awhile. It just needed some proofreading, a task which seemed like it might trump fewer brain cells than finishing this scholarship application.

For those of you who might wonder how and why I went to Qatar, it is a semi-complicated story involving the Ritz Carlton, grammar lessons, and a reckless streak of spontaneity, but suffice it to say that my dear friend Sharon bought me a ticket to Doha one fine Saturday morning in Boston.

While I was still teaching there, we had taken on a very friendly and charming student from Qatar named Hamad. He became sort of a dual pal/father figure to us. On breaks from discussing why he really should use modal verbs in everyday situations, our talks went a little something like this:

Hilary: So Hamad, it's better to say 'I would like a Caprese salad' rather than 'Bring me Caprese salad' because..."
Hamad: And Hilary! Why aren't you married?
Hilary: Well....
Hamad: Marriage is joy!
Hilary: Well...There's a lot of things I want to do. I'm young. Yeah...stuff.
Hamad: What young? You. Are not. Young! Time for children! Time for husband!

And so on. I know he only looks out for my best interests. Anyway, he talked about Doha so often and so lovingly that one day he told us "just come, and you will see what I say." And that is what we did.

Probably one of the most intense cultural experience that Sharon and I had was attending a Qatari wedding. Hamad's wife, Sara, took us one night, as Hamad was leaving for a few days in Morocco. When we told one of Hamad's sisters that we were going to a wedding, she got very excited, saying that we would see things we didn't know were here on earth. When I asked her what to wear for such an other-worldly affair she replied, "Oh, you know, maybe some glitter, and something...nice."

Now by glitter, I thought of the fairy dust that college girls rub into their cheekbones before heading out to a frat party; shimmery, but not on par with "disco ball." Sharon and I decided to go to a mall to find something "nice" to wear, since neither of us had packed anything besides loose, modest trousers and long-sleeved shirts. Apparently, we had been told, Gulf weddings are actually two separate parties usually held at luxury hotels: one for the groom, one for the bride. And because the parties were also gender exclusive, the women were permitted to remove the ubiquitous abaya (a long, black, flowing robe that Muslim women of the Gulf region wear over street clothes whenever they are in public or in the presence of a man who isn't immediate family or their husband) during the festivities. I thought I'd choose something dark and not too short, something that wouldn't attract a lot of attention and that I could wear again. Practical. "Nice."

Hamad and Sara picked us up around 9, and Sharon and I trotted out to meet him, covering ourselves in abaya so as not to attract any unwanted attention. When we got in, Sara lifted up her veil so we could see the heavy make-up that she had artistically applied earlier. While many young women in the Gulf have begun to wear a lot of make-up in public (eyeliner is important, I guess, if the eyes are the only part of your body that you show), Sara usually heeds to the traditional Qatari-Islamic values of modesty and covers her whole face when she goes out. But not tonight. Tonight her eyes were meticulously encircled in black eyeliner and highlighted by about four shades of shadow, her hair (which was streaked in subtle shades of red) was sleekly swept up on the crown of her head.

Hamad drove us to the hall, and when we got out I noticed that Sara had TICKETS to the wedding. Outside the hotel, there was a small and fluctuating sea of women in their abayas, chatting on mobiles, trying to make arrangements for their friends to come, no doubt.

The first thing I saw when I walked into the entryway of the hall was a voluptuous girl staring intensely into a mirror, attempting to adjust her bountiful cleavage within the confines of her heavily sequined, too-tight evening gown. Her abaya was nowhere in sight. It was a rather awkward thing to see, as up to that point we had only seen women in their abaya, unless we were guests in a woman's private home, and had been given several spiels about the importance of modesty in Qatari culture.

Sara handed an official-looking woman our tickets, and we relinquished our bags up for inspection. Our phones and cameras, and anything that remotely looked like it could be used to photograph the scantily-clad women accumulating behind us were confiscated for the evening.

The moment we got past security, I immediately felt as though someone had wired my brain to a virtual video game. The hall was enormous, maybe about half the size of a football field. Silvery curtains adorned the walls, and an ornate runway ran the length of the entire room, leading up to what could be deemed the "high throne;" a large platform created a T at the end of the runway, marked by two golden chairs and a good deal of lavish drapings and decor.

But what was most shocking were the women themselves. Most of the women, at least those in their mid-40s and younger, were wearing long, tight-fitting, chest-hoisting evening gowns. Forget the Red Carpet; Los Angeles has never seen such a decadent array of elaborate trains, embroidery, and beehive hair-dos. It seemed like at least half the party was trying to mimic a cross between Dolly Parton and Amy Winehouse (except our Sara, of course, who was the picture of class in a white, asymetrical evening gown). As I followed Sara and her friends through the tables, I realized that "nice" had probably meant a $15,000 evening gown imported from either Italy or Lebanon paired with five-inch heels, and that "glitter" had meant, well, disco ball. As I followed Sara through the sequin-strewn tables and scrutinizing, coal-lined gazes, I felt the plainness of my knee-length maroon cotton, the girlishness of my simple ballet flats. When I sat down, I covered myself in the abaya hoping that these high-so ladies would think I was a modest and considerate foreigner demonstrating respect for the local culture rather than just a bad dresser.

Just as shocking for me was how many of the women were behaving. In the public eye, Qatari women seem quite contained; they don't use much body motion when speaking, and certainly never speak loudly, and never, ever remove their abaya or hijab (the veil that covers their hair). However, tonight all pretenses of demureness and modesty seemed to have been cast to the side along with the abaya. Women were talking animatedly among themselves, analyzing other women's clothes, and eating like it was the Last Supper. There was live music--a traditional and very popular Qatari singer and her band, and let me tell you, the guests danced for hours up on that runway. Women in rhinestone-studded spikes were swiveling to and fro, some of them swinging their waist-length hair in circles (somewhat reminiscent of the head-banging I engaged in at middle school dances, albeit a more graceful and seductive version). Sometimes groups of older women would take control of the situation, displaying more methodical dances that looked like they had they their origins in the village rather than the clubs. These women seemed to protest the pageantry of the youth, keeping their abaya on and wearing Bedouin-style masks called batoolas . http://my-islamic-way.blogspot.com/2009/08/batoola.html

Finally: The Entrance of The Bride. After about two hours of dancing, the lights dimmed, and a spotlight shown on the black curtains hanging over the end of the runway (opposite from the throne). At the culmination of a bombastic drum roll, the bride emerged at last, clad in all the fantastic make-up, skirts, veils and various other gilded trappings reminiscent of the Barbie Dream Bride of my youth.

It took her about 10 minutes to walk the runway, and she was bawling the whole time ("From emotion," Sara clarified).

Towards the end of her grand and solemn promenade, her close friends and family members hiked up their skirts, climbed up on the catwalk, and began throwing money at her. Sharon looked at me, made aghast by the Western connotations of throwing money at a beautiful woman. Yet again, Sara clarified that this tradition represents wishes for good luck and a prosperous future, leaving me semi-wishing that I, too, would some day stand around in a gorgeous designer dress, adrift in an ever-thickening cloud of cold, hard cash.

After about another half an hour of dancing and money-throwing, the bride was seated on one of the thrones for a prolonged round of photo opps. There were TVs located all over the hall and a video camera strategically positioned onstage so that everyone could watch her smile for the cameras. Suddenly, the song changed , and Sara started to cover up in her abaya.

"This song means 'Man, you may come and take your bride now,'" she explained. "Now the husband and his family come."

The groom, accompanied by his brothers, father, and new brother-in-law emerged from the curtains and faced a room of at least 200 women who had only moments before been pulling moves that would put Beyonce to shame. Now these women were seated, mostly, and shrouded in their abayas. The bride's family had covered her in veils and were standing around her, now a shapeless heap of white tulle. The mother uncovered the daughter after exchanging blessings with her new son-in-law, and thus commenced their life as a married couple. And another bout of photos and dancing.

The dramatic revelation of the bride is quite interesting; a clear statement that this is her day to be the focal point, as she is the only one who can be physically seen by the groom in a room (read: world) of so many other women. After they leave together, down the runway, the guests can once again resume merriment in whatever garb they choose.

After I had eaten a theoretical physics textbook's weight in babaganoush and sampled five flavors of mousse, Sara decided that the party was losing its steam and suggested we take off. Sharon and I adjusted our abaya and made our way past the energetic young fashion moguls, the Phillipino waitstaff, and the old ladies who had relinquished daintiness to the bygone winds of youth and begun feasting directly from the buffet serving bowls.

Suddenly I was unplugged from the virtual world of decadence and lost inhibitions. It was 1 a.m., the air was cool, thin and still, the infant skyline of Doha signaling us across the sprawling highways and developing plots of desert. We were once again silently arranging our hijabs, scurrying like dark birds back to our flock.

Gulf Greetings

I haven't had much time to blog since we arrived in Doha last week on the 26th. Our former student, Hamad, and his family have kept us unbelievable occupied. We've been to the new Islamic Museum of Art in Doha, the desert dunes, the beach, the Qtel headquarters where Hamad arranged a meeting with his boss (who is also apparently a sheikh?) for us, and a wedding. And of course, tons of the high-end shopping malls that are popping up all over around here.

Now we're in Abu Dhabi with another student, leaving for Dubai for 3 nights tomorrow. Hopefully I'll have a moment for a more in-depth blog soon.

An education with cheese, please

I've been in Wisconsin for a couple weeks now. I came back to go to school at UW Madison. Strangely enough, they have an excellent program in Southeast Asian Studies, here in this arctic tundra where naught a coconut shall grow, ne'er rice field be cultivated.

At first, the idea of "coming home" for school seemed like a total defeat. I had envisioned going coastal for studying, or maybe Europe, or at least somewhere over an hour away from where I grew up. A place, perhaps, that didn't pride itself on Squeak Volume of its cheese curds. It was almost worse to know that I had other more far-away options, that I had spent hours on their applications, and that in the end they were simply unaffordable.

But lately I've been trying to see home as my next adventure, rather than a retreat. I actually don't know much about Madison. As a child, Madison was where I bought shoes. It was also the place with Indian restaurants, an ice cream shop with 29 flavors of ice cream, and a larger selection of movies than the four-screen shanty in Beaver Dam. Most of my friends left the state for college, and even now I only have approximately two friends who currently live there. The fact that I know so few people in Madison is alluring; it oddly makes me more comfortable with the move.

Not to mention, Madison is a really great school, and I was really fortunate to have been accepted. I've met so many people for whom a college education, much less graduate school, only exists as a hazy, unattainable dream. I won't take this for granted.

I went to Madison last week to meet with some professors. Mom and I drove down in the early afternoon to catch Professor Thongchai Winichakul, a renowned historian of Thailand, during his office hours. I'll be taking his graduate seminar, which goes by the seductive title of "Dangerous Histories." Apparently I'll be doing a lot of my own research on the nation or culture of my choosing; hopefully a head start on my masters thesis.

I also met with Professor Cullinane, who specializes in the history of the Phillipines. He had so much enthusiasm for the program, and was excited to explain my options. Overall, it was relieving to finally show up at "my school," to know that so many other people have interests similar to mine, to see massive books on hill tribes, Loatian politics, and Theravada Buddhism lining the shelves. Maybe leaving Boston to study Southeast Asia in sub-zero temperatures wasn't such a crack-pot idea.

I also can't deny that home in December is comforting. The heating is functional at my parents' house, and I even have an electric blanket. I am always shocked to open the fridge and see it full of delightful things for me to consume, and remember that we have a dishwasher that isn't constantly breaking and transforming our kitchen into a soapy wading pool. Perhaps I can now understand why so many Europeans live with their families until they're like, 40.

And now, a word about Wisconsin for the East Coasters who have never been.

Holy Crimony! The Glorious Benefits of Wisconsin: An exercise in positive thinking as an attempt to not miss my people in Boston so much.

1) Cheese and beer are indeed staples of our diet. There are at least six logs of cheese stored in the Disch freezer to serve as winter provisions, and my mom just bought another five-pounder of Monteray Jack this afternoon (holiday cheese sale!). A landmark on the highway to Madison is Schultz's Cheese Haus, one of many temples to dairy and German-style beef products in my area. My dad stows troughs of beer in the basement like a nuclear disaster is upon us.

And the "squeak factor" of a cheese curd is indeed a topic of discussion. My darling friend Cat asked me if it was because we keep live mice embedded in our cheese logs. This is fortunately not the case. The "squeak" is simply a combination of the texture and the actual sound that emanate from a curd once it is being ground between the back molars. It's not a good idea to by curds at a chain grocery store, because they will have probably lost their squeak, and hence their freshness, and hence will be no different from any other cheese.

2) People are just so nice. I've heard that students from the East Coast who go to Madison for undergrad tend to coagulate in their minority, one reason being that "the Wisconsin kids are too nice to hang out with." Well if pleasantness is a fault, consider us guilty! Darnnit.

3) You know you are in Wisconsin when the YMCA parking lot is full in the middle of a state-wide blizzard warning. No, not even the threat of sliding into a ditch or driving in zero-visibility can deter we Wisconsinites from working off those deep-fried cheese curds from lunch.

4) It's sort of invigorating to be somewhere where you have history. I can't step out of the house without running into someone I know: a high school teacher, a friend's mother, a guy I did community theatre with as a child, the popular girl, the bully. Seeing them is like getting knocked out by a time machine for a split second, only to be immediately flung forward again into the visceral present thinking, "I was intimidated by you? I had a crush on you? You picked me first for kickball when I was used to being chosen last? I spent two weeks studying for your exams?"

And then, you know, one must exercise polite conversation.

Flipped collars, Flamboyance, and the Success of Spandex.

A dear friend of mine from high school has recently started a fashion blog based in Chicago that specifically targets style for the working professional (http://theworkingwardrobe.com/). She just got her first independent style consulting gig today. What that means, exactly, I'm not sure, though judging by the fact that I wear moccasins to work four days out of five (and All-Stars on Fridays!), her services are probably targeted towards casually-frocked culprits like me. Anyway, in tribute to her, I would like to take a moment to pontificate on some of my experiences in fashion out East.

We of the Midwest have a particular vision of fashion on the East Coast, usually involving Pastel Polo Parades and flipped collars so starched they threaten to lop of an ear upon any sudden movement. Incidentally, this vision does indeed materialize, particularly around the freshman area of Harvard. Now I understand why my high school (Wayland Academy, a boarding school where my dad teaches physics) had a dress code--to be more "East Coast." Of course, I was oblivious at the time to the implication that "East Coast" meant "prestigious." No one seemed to mind that our women's ties and tweed blazers provided endless fodder for contempt from people at the public school.

Anyway, despite the stereotypes, over the past year in Boston I've noticed that the style spectrum extends beyond the boat shoes and walking advertisements for Brooks Brothers in Harvard Square.

I can say that one of the best places for the style sleuth has to be the Faneuil Hall area on a Friday night. Faneuil Hall, not my usual nighttime hangout, is located downtown, just a five minute walk from the harbor. It's an old area, so much of the sidewalk is actually cobblestone (tourists dig cobblestone). There is a large area around Quincy Market and Faneuil Hall in which no cars are allowed, and the only way to migrate to the next bar is to tread over the treacherously uneven brick. Now combine cobblestone with 100s of swaggering drunk women in their 20-somethings teetering upon dangerously tall toothpick heels, clinging onto their sheepish boyfriends, who are trying their utmost to remain serious and manly about their slightly sloppy situations. While I've spotted some nice patent leather spikes in this area, my experiences as a spectator have made me want to refrain from sprucing up in stilettos.

Another demographic which seems to have found inspiration lately, particularly in the realm of "the headdress", is the homeless of Boston. See, there is a scruffy-looking fellow (presumably and sadly homeless, as he is usually carrying several loaded trash bags with him) who wanders around my work neighborhood in the ritzy Beacon Hill--Back Bay area. The special thing is that he wears some sort of feather headdress. I never want to stare too much, but it seems as though he has cut a strip of plastic to fit his head and adorned it with feathers of various fowl and size. The weird follow-up occurred a few days ago when I caught the 39 bus going south from Copley to Jamaica Plain. On the bus, I noticed that another woman, also homeless, was wearing a similar headdress, silently watching the stately brick apartments of the Back Bay whirl past. Are the homeless of Boston combining forces in the inauguration of a fashion "haus"? Is the mysterious headdress a mere coincidence? Am I missing some kind of subtle portent? Am I living in a David Lynch film? What?

Another fervor of fashion that has overtaken Boston (and much of the globe, unfortunately) is the "skinny jean." For those of you lucky few who aren't familiar, skinny jeans are simply very, very tight jeans (sometimes enhanced with spandex) that are so tapered they cut off the circulation in your calf muscles. The skinny jean is also God's way of saying that you have the figure of a double-scooped ice cream cone. Furthermore, how do these ladies get their feet through those narrow ankle-exits? I've tried on skinny jeans; I know how long it takes to get your feet through those unforgiving mouse holes. But then again, I have rather large feet.

And finally, and perhaps on a more personal note, I wish to touch on the resurgence of animal print spandex in my life. Recently, a dear and brilliant friend of mine has found it very necessary to sport this luxuriously tacky print not once but twice in the same week! What are the ramifications for a ruggedly handsome European fellow of donning a tight, midriff-baring cheetah print mock-neck at a downtown club on "Gay Saturday"? How do tipsy women at a housewarming party respond to tall Belgian men in sleeveless, curve-hugging, tiger-patterned evening gowns? The rest of the world may never know, but thanks to the past week, I now do.

Ana Ahub Jobna.

Today was a pretty slow day around school. We're low on students this month. I am guessing many families that could normally afford to send their kids to a pricey city just to study English can't these days. A couple students slept in this morning, so I had a lot of one-on-one time with a really interesting girl from China. She is the oldest of four, and started working in one of her parent's companies when she was just 15. At 21, she now owns one of the companies (often micromanaging over the phone between classes) and has 130 people working under her. She hopes to improve her English enough that she can get into Harvard Business School. She's pretty much the Wonder Woman of the Asian continent, as far as I'm concerned. However, she noted in a serious and slightly frustrated tone that in China, the oldest must take on the family business (profession, practice, etc.) even if he or she doesn't have a natural inclination or desire towards that field.

I often wonder if I'm doing a silly thing by going back to school, especially since I plan to study Southeast Asia, which on the whole isn't exactly an international financial hub. I wonder what I will do with the degree, as I'm no longer convinced that I am meant for the PhD Factory, and I wonder if by studying Southeast Asia, I am avoiding some other avenues that interest me. But I guess the important thing is that I made a choice, and now I am responsible for making that choice the "correct" one.

I'm also thinking about applying for the journalism program at Madison and doubling it up. When I lived in Asia, I was always very envious of the correspondents and freelancers that I met when I was on my holidays from teaching. I also seem to be a masochist by way of arduous graduate school applications (insert maniacal laughter!)!

Basically, anything I like will guarantee my perpetual state of poor-ness, recession or not. I thought about staying in Boston and applying for programs in International Relations, but the amount of catching up in mathematics and economics that I would have had to do was a daunting thought. And that isn't what I'm interested in anyway. I'm interested in language and culture and writing. Conversations with my students often remind me to be thankful for the preposterous amount of freedom I have to not just state my interests, but pursue them.


Random note: Half of my reading class was mysteriously absent this afternoon. The only two students who came were both from Arabic-speaking countries (the UAE and Saudi Arabia). We discussed the book for awhile (The Giver by Lois Lowry), and then I requested an impromptu Arabic lesson. You know...couldn't get too far ahead....what with half the class gone and all. I learned various forms of greetings and introductions, as well as some key phrases to know when traveling in the Middles East, including "Ana jua'na. Ana ahub jobna!" (I am hungry. I like cheese!). All in all, a productive class.

T-Time!

I probably should have bought a bicycle when I moved to Boston.

I use the T, Boston's subway system, to get pretty much everywhere (for the first month I was here I kept calling it the "El," a la Chicago). I usually forget to charge my mp3 player, hence I'm helplessly trapped listening to whatever tinny "mmpsh mmpsh mmpsh yeeeah" the teenageer next to me is plugged into. People listen to their devices at such a high volume; I often want to demand them to "Change the channel!" like when I was a kid and wanted to watch Sesame Street but Mom was watching Oprah or Antique Roadshow, or like now when certain friends of mine still want to watch Susan Boyle sing "I Dreamed a Dream" over and over...

It's just that I like walking so much, and I fear a bicycle would get stolen anyway, even though I think it looks cool when someone walks into a party with one pant leg rolled up, all red-faced and tote-bagged: "Augh, man, I totally just biked here from Jamaica Plain in the rain but I still stopped at the co-op to pick up some organic freekah grains and IPA!" Well, I'll buy a bike in Madison for sure. And I will be rolling up one pant leg.

I've struggled with how to use my time on the T. I make a minimum of one round-trip to and from work every day, and there are at least two occasions per week when I take the T to work (about six stops), take the T back home, and then retrace the stops later en route to Harvard or Porter Square. That's like at least two hours invested in transport. I try to read or write or do something "productive", but usually end up wondering where the lady across from me bought her shoes, eavesdropping on Spanish-speakers (for practice!), trying to decide whether or not that guy by the pole is slyly executing a creepy up-and-down look in my direction (I get very defensive of my womanhood on the T)... Sometimes drunk people try to befriend me, which is humorous if I'm with a companion but a little frightening if I'm alone. In response, I pretend I don't speak English, or I just nod and stare absently at the window just above my intoxicated acquaintance's head until he or she starts to feel the cold, sobering drops of self-consciousness pooling. Kind of cruel, I know.

I was looking through my journal the other day and came across some of the experiences I've shared with the Good, the Bad, and the Insane of Boston.

1. I like the guitarist at the Arlington Green Line stop. He plays originals, I think, or maybe they are Mexican folk songs that I've just never heard before (not that I've heard many). The chords take their time echoing off the rounded tunnel walls, slow tunes as we all scurry to above or below. The overall effect makes me feel like an actress in a low-budget "indie" film, the part where she has something really heavy on her mind and is probably wearing fishnet stockings and smudgy black eyeliner and a corduroy blazer, or something with elbow patches anyway. His speakers are cheap, the acoustics suck, but the hollowness of the sound makes me feel both lonely, and hopeful and young.

2. Today when the train doors opened at Downtown Crossing there was a laughing couple holding the shrunken head of a wig mannequin between them. I did a double take because I thought a small face had sprouted through their armpits. The man was fumbling a pack of cigarettes and one of them fell on a sweet little girl in a stroller. The mother grumbled, "She's too young to start" in front of the perpetrator, his girlfriend, and the grinning bodiless head. The child was making earnest and purposeful gestures towards my red purse and the mother said "She has no sense of boundaries" to which I replied, "It's ok. She shouldn't. She's a child."

3. Sometimes I wish it was more acceptable to speak to people on the T--we're all so smug and sad, shouting into phones, busily entering and searching data in blackberries like foraging insects.

4. (February 10, 2009) I get so distracted on the T. Today a swaggering, disheveled man boarded on at Stony Brook and immediately started spraying air freshener all over the car, holding a pint of brown-bagged mystery in the other hand. He tripped on a woman's backpack, who previously hadn't dared to bend over and pick it up for fear of attracting attention to herself. He looked with disgust at the offending strap and thrust it aside with his dirty leather boot.

And he stood there, adopting a wide-legged albeit unsteady stance, King of the Car, surveying us common, coarse commuters. Of course, the next logical thing to do as Ruler was remove the can of air freshener (with a flourish!) from his jacket. Within seconds the entire car wreaked of chemical-drenched potpourri. The wide-eyed woman and I simultaneously migrated to the opposite end of the car, ducking as though in military retreat. She remembered her backpack.

When I reached Downtown Crossing, I quickly exited the orange line, feeling a bit light-headed, and bolted for the red line that would take me to Cambridge. I could hear the train either approaching or leaving, and the doors closed dramatically when I was just a few steps away. When this happens, I usually feel like spitting on the door and stamping my foot, but I kept my tantrum to an irritated exhale. THEN, a normal-seeming middle-aged man approached me and said "I wouldn't have missed that train if I hadn't been staring at your boots."

Perhaps on any other day I would have assumed that "boots" was an entirely different plural noun, but today I was wearing my very special Lobster Rain Boots. They are black with red soles and and tiny lobsters printed all over them. Even I can't stop staring at their waterproof glory.

"Oh. They're cool, right?" I replied, nonchalently.

"Yes." He proceeded: "I like your hair."

I said, "Thanks man."

Then, eyes narrowed in a sudden display of skepticism, he asked "Are you Jewish?" to which I offered a completely blank star and answered, "No, no, not Jewish. Ummmm....sorry?"

He let out a slight sigh of relief and nodded, staring back, perhaps waiting for me to articulate my Roman Catholic roots and small-town Wisconsin upbringing. But I didn't. I stared him straight in the eye for a solid five seconds before relocating focus to the Greek crossword puzzle I had been working on before the two-faced compliment. I almost wished I had lied and claimed false ethnic heritage just to see what he would have said. But I didn't, and he moved on to the next young-ish woman who sat alone two benches down from mine.

Anti-Semitism and a failed attempt at womanizing. Is there no shame in Boston's underground?